|
|
Individuality
Friendship
- 7
Never use your friend
as a personal diary
 In this chapter I am going to talk about sharing!
Sharing thoughts! Sharing joy! Sharing problems! Sharing ice cream etc.
Friendship and sharing go hand in hand. Where there is friendship, sharing automatically follows. The more you share more your friendship becomes intimate.
Sharing is the spice of friendship. Friends never be discreet. There is no friendship without sharing. True friends not only share joy, they share sorrows too.
The degree of sharing depends upon the kind of friendship. Sharing varies with depth. More deep the friendship, more the degree of sharing.
But
At this juncture I would like to tell you one thing. Beware!! This sharing may snatch away your friend! This I do not say out of experience but say out of logic.
Often people use their friends as punch bags. If they are depressed they vomit it out to their friend, who, feels all the more helpless because he/she cannot help the friend who means so much!
You keep on sharing your problems with your friend and empty your heart. Just try to understand the position of your friend. Your friend, too, has problems of his own, which he never shares with you because he does not want to add to your problems, as he is aware of your problems.
Because of this, it so happens that you add to the pre-existing tensions of your friend. You float in air because you empty your tensions but your friend is buried in earth because of double burden. Just think, do you have any right to do this to your friend?
Sharing should be limited, in such a way that it is two way. Never let your friend realize that you have hell lot of problems, by doing this you will snatch a friend from your friend. You will have a friend to talk to! But your friend will be left with no one to share his problems.
Thus,
Never load your friend with your problems. Also share his problems. Make him realize that you are there to listen to him. Because anything that is one sided is not good in friendship.
If you are the one who is used as a punch bag, do not hesitate to stop your friend. Hesitation is like a poison for friendship.
Never hesitate to keep your friend informed about him, whether it is good or bad.
I repeat
Friendship is mutual understanding. It has to be two-sided. Everything in it has to be two-sided.
Never load your friend with your problems so much that he cannot share his problems with you. Never let the two-sided action become one-sided.
Never only be a speaker, let your friend speak too! A true friend will always be a good listener! But do not take undue advantage of it.
If you are a speaker… vomiting your problems on your friend and your friend
does not get a chance to share his problems with you then most probably you are a bad and selfish friend.
Remember
Never use your friend as a personal diary.
To keep him your friend, treat
him like a friend. Your friend is not a psychiatrist, he is your friend,
An individual, just like you and me.
–
Aarti Honrao
August 17, 2000
Top
| Previous | Next
Individuality
Friendship:
1
| 2 | 3 | 4
| 5 | 6 | 7 |
8 | 9 | 10 |
11 | 12 | 13 |
14 | 15 | 16
| 17 | 18 | 19 |
20 | 21 | 22 |
23 | 24
|
