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Individuality
Friendship
- 9
There is no need for
"Thank you"
and "Sorry" in friendship
 Combining the discussions of chapter seven and eight I would like to proceed with my chapter nine. Chapter seven and eight are important aspects of friendship. When taken together they account to a perfect friendship.
This perfect friendship has one more important characteristic. There is no need for "Thank you" and "Sorry" in friendship. When I say there is no need that does not mean that two friends never feel thankful or sorry. It's just that they do not need to mention, it is understood by the other friend.
Usually, there is no scope for sorry, till the conditions become really tensed. Reason for this is that friends are so well in co-ordination, that each other's shortcomings like short-temper, stupidity etc. are accepted and well known by the other friend.
A time does come when friends take their friend for granted and utter few sentences which they do not know can hurt the other friend, but, again if the other friend is understanding, she can put herself in her friend's place and analyze the situation.
Also, it happens that the friend who herself has uttered few statements, feel awkward later on and clarifies, again, here, she need not say sorry because she knows that she did not intend to hurt the opposite person, it were only the circumstances which would be straining and misunderstanding can occur.
As far as Thank you is concerned, I feel that every friend does not accept a thank you from her friend, because she feels whatever she is doing, it's for herself. But then, the same person thanks her friend. Quite funny isn't it! I say this out of personal experience or to be specific, personal behavior.
But I feel Thank you should not be so frequent in friendships or else it becomes a formality. Once in a while Thank you is appreciated. More willingly accepted if it is in action and not in words. In the sense, if it is a smile a handshake or a hug!
Thus,
Sorry and Thank you are excluded out of dictionary of friendship, if it is in words. But it can be sometimes appreciated if it is unspoken and in action. These two words ( Thank you and Sorry ) are not only words but feelings, which are invisible in friendship!
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Aarti Honrao
August 31, 2000
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